In an ideal world, parents would get along, leaving their past behind them after a divorce. They would willingly maintain a peaceful relationship to raise their child in a happy and healthy environment. However, in reality, emotions and hurtful memories can act as obstacles in the way of successful co-parenting.
What to Do If an Ex Won’t Respond?
There can be times when an ex will refuse to respond to messages, calls, or even emails. They might even refuse to cooperate in schedule changes, leaving a heavy portion of the burden on your shoulders. In cases like this, it’s important to bring these matters up to the court to devise a solution. They can use online co-parenting platforms like Our Family Wizard or Talking Parent. These platforms will not only timestamp when a message is opened but will also notify the user when the other doesn’t respond.
The court will also go to the extent of ordering a timeline for response messages. So, for example, both parents will be given 48 hours to respond to each other’s messages on the platform. This is also a great way to put things in writing so that either parent will be held accountable for their words.
How Can Online Co-Parenting Software Help?
The advent of technology has brought along several co-parenting apps like Our Family Wizard or Talking Parents. This promotes peaceful communication between co-parents. Families can share messages. These apps also have an optional Tone Meter, which points out negative tones and offers alternatives to avoid any arguments.
Why is Clear Communication Important?
Communication is the key to any healthy relationship, whether it’s a marriage, parent-child, or even co-parenting. After a divorce, communication and cooperation can be challenging and uncomfortable. However, it’s essential to deal with these roadblocks to ensure your child is raised the right way and isn’t deprived of any care, attention, or love. Communication doesn’t necessarily have to mean face-to-face, you can still keep in touch via messages, emails, and phone calls. Written communication channels make it easier to stay focused and maintain a level of respect and calm.
Tips for Improving Co-parenting Communication
Keep the conversation brief and to the point. Remember, the sole reason for communication is your child, so all talks should only revolve around this. Don’t bring up any past problems or let those emotions get in the way. Since this relationship is not an emotional or physical one, keep a formal tone to pass on information.
Stay Calm and Collected
Try your best to avoid jumping to conclusions and overreacting to any situation. Be mindful of the language and tone you use. For example, you might want to steer away from unnecessary capitalizations, as this can give the impression that you’re frustrated. Avoid making rude statements, demands, or playing the blame game.
Try to be Courteous
Don’t be unreasonable with the parent and be as courteous as possible. Words like “please” and “thank you” will go a long way.
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